Thirty Days of Kink: Day Eleven – Ethics

Ethics

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Recently I was at a local munch and while the conversation at any munch can be varied. This time around one conversation ended up taking over the entire room and things got pretty heated. There was a follow-up discussion/argument on Fetlife which lasted about a week before the mods closed it all down. What was it that got everyone so riled up? The ethics of kink and choosing to be a Dominant who refuses to use safe-words.
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Guide to Safer Online Dating in the Fetish World

The internet is full of things. Really. You can find cats doing crazy things, talking dogs, you can order groceries to be delivered to your front door, hell for some reason you can even find instructions on how to make crack cocaine. One of the most popular uses of the internet of course is to meet new people and romantic partners. It’s hard enough being single in the vanilla world to find a compatible companion but when you’re kinky it can feel absolutely impossible. Here I’ll go over some of the finer points on how to find a date, play partner or simply a new friend in the BDSM world and stay safe doing it.
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Staying Safe When Meeting a New Dominant

Any Ladies Looking For Their Mr. Grey?

On the hunt for a new Dominant?


It can be very overwhelming when you first come on to the scene as a new submissive. It seems like before you even finish uploading your first profile picture on FetLife, your inbox is already exploding with horny men from all of the corners of the earth. With so many kinksters now relying on the anonymity of the internet to seek out new connections the likelihood of dishonesty can be ten-fold. If you don’t have your wits about you while looking for a new play partner can lead to some dangerous situations. I’m not trying to scare anyone off from talking to people on the internet, today I’m going to talk about how to stay safe when meeting a new play partner in your local scene.
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No, I Do Not Want to Go See Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey

“Ohh 50 Shades of Grey! Let’s get drunk and go see it!” No thanks, I’d rather scrape my face off with a rusty screwdriver. “But surely you will want to go see it, you’re all kinky and shit!” No. Not just no, but Hell No. I’m actually getting tired of having this conversation. The idea of sitting in a large darkened room filled with over-sexualised drunk women giddy on shitty wine giggling at the ridiculous story playing out on the silver screen is not a priority on my list and I’ll tell you why.

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What to Expect at your First Munch

So you’re new to the fetish scene and you want to hit the ground running. Or maybe you’ve been kinky all your life yet struggle to meet other kinksters. This inaugural step isn’t always obvious when you’re first coming out of the kinky closet. If you’re looking to expand your friends base with a bevy of fetish minded companions, your best bet is to attend a local munch.
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