Getting Started in Rope Bondage

Secretary Bound 1

Secretary Bound 1 by Zaranack on Deviantart


If you’ve perused the Kinky and Popular section of Fetlife or any stunning BDSM photography then you will have seen some great works of art made with rope. If you’ve always been enamoured by the intriguing images in erotic photography books which depict intricate rope bondage and would love to give it a try you may find that you have no clue how to take a pile of rope and turn it into a bondage playground. Today I’ll let you in on all the information you need when getting started in rope bondage. This guide will take you from the initial inkling if interest to just before you begin your first tie.
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Thirty Days of Kink: Day Eleven – Ethics

Ethics

By Orietta.sberla (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0], via Wikimedia Commons


Recently I was at a local munch and while the conversation at any munch can be varied. This time around one conversation ended up taking over the entire room and things got pretty heated. There was a follow-up discussion/argument on Fetlife which lasted about a week before the mods closed it all down. What was it that got everyone so riled up? The ethics of kink and choosing to be a Dominant who refuses to use safe-words.
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Guide to Safer Online Dating in the Fetish World

The internet is full of things. Really. You can find cats doing crazy things, talking dogs, you can order groceries to be delivered to your front door, hell for some reason you can even find instructions on how to make crack cocaine. One of the most popular uses of the internet of course is to meet new people and romantic partners. It’s hard enough being single in the vanilla world to find a compatible companion but when you’re kinky it can feel absolutely impossible. Here I’ll go over some of the finer points on how to find a date, play partner or simply a new friend in the BDSM world and stay safe doing it.
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Staying Safe When Meeting a New Dominant

Any Ladies Looking For Their Mr. Grey?

On the hunt for a new Dominant?


It can be very overwhelming when you first come on to the scene as a new submissive. It seems like before you even finish uploading your first profile picture on FetLife, your inbox is already exploding with horny men from all of the corners of the earth. With so many kinksters now relying on the anonymity of the internet to seek out new connections the likelihood of dishonesty can be ten-fold. If you don’t have your wits about you while looking for a new play partner can lead to some dangerous situations. I’m not trying to scare anyone off from talking to people on the internet, today I’m going to talk about how to stay safe when meeting a new play partner in your local scene.
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Beginner’s Guide to Electro Sex – Safety

Electro Sex

Electro Sex Safety


It’s always important in any new endeavour to learn the basics. If you’re new to electro sex there’s a few things you need to know about electro sex safety to keep things moving smoothly. I’m not here to scare you off from indulging in a fun new kink, I just want to be sure it’s done in a safe manner. I am a R.A.C.K. player through and through so I will always advise on plenty of research especially when it comes to something like electro sex.
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Beginner’s Guide to Electro Sex – The Bare Essentials

Electro Sex

Electro Sex Beginner’s Guide

There are plenty of beginner’s guides to electro sex out there but a majority of them tend to cause more confusion rather than clarity. If you’ve ever considered dipping your toes in the kinky waters of electro sex and you have no idea where to start then my electro sex guide should help. Continue reading

How Do I Reveal My Foot Fetish

Foot rub

Foot rub

Have you got a foot fetish? Love to massage women’s feet, kiss toes, lick soles and shoes? You may have been able to satisfy your needs meeting random dominant women off FetLife in the past but if you’re in a relationship with someone you’ve met outside of the fet scene then you may not be sure how to proceed. She may not know about your kink side at all and as far as you know she is as vanilla as they come. All you know is she has the most perfect pair of feet you’ve ever seen!
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Guide to Puppy Play

Puppy Play

Do you or somebody you love have a penchant for sniffing bums? Do they eat out of the bin and bark at the postman? Do they hump your leg when they’re happy to see you? On bonfire night do they want nothing more than to hide under the bed? Do they seem too excited at the sight of a tennis ball? Or perhaps they can just spend hours at your feet with their head in your lap while you repeat, ‘Good dog.’ If you’ve said yes to any of these questions then you may just have a puppy play enthusiast in your midst.

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Guide on Wartenberg Pinwheels

Wartenberg Pinwheel

Wartenberg Pinwheel

One of my favourite things in my gear bag has to be my vast collection of pinwheels. To me personally, no sensation play is complete without a bit of pinwheel action. Before I get going I prefer to place my Wartenberg pinwheels in a glass of ice water or even directly in the freezer while I torture my victim with a bit of impact play. If you’ve ever wondered how to use a pinwheel in a BDSM setting, Mistress Selena is here to give you some prodigious pinwheel pointers.
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